Can you keep secret or stop a rumor?

This past Tuesday there was a surprise party held for "The" Mrs Astor. It went off really well. I was impressed that all those that were invited, had a part of or just knew about it kept the surprise well hidden. It is rare sometimes to keep good surprises from friends.

Mr. S. and I were at the party and I assisted a bit by forwarding the invitation to others, receiving the phone call that the Limo had arrived at Twist and letting the guests know, cutting cake, and handling the spotlight for the show. While doing this, it seems someone decided to bend Mr. S's ear with rumors about me. What were they thinking? Mr. S. and I have been talking about everything and have been open about our pasts (plus the fact that we have had "the talk" and are being exclusive). The tale the person told him made me laugh and angry at the same time(Did they think he wouldn't ask me?). The facts were wrong and Mr. S. said he took it with a "grain of salt" (he was considering his source). I do tell people if you have any questions or have anything to say about me, please check your sources, or at least ask me directly. Cowards!!

There are some people that do not like seeing others happy or in a relationship. It is one of the sad things about our times. As for me, I would like to support people in their choices and let them create their own rules of how they will be. If you do not want to be the object of rumor, then do not spread them yourself.

As for the person who started me on this little tirade, I do have a calendar and know dates and places and your story did not hold any water. It only made me angry. Have the courage to speak to me first and ask for the facts (or at least my side). It really does not matter if you are spreading misinformation to others, if they know me, they can judge for themselves by my actual words and actions if it is true. Also, I am social enough to have witnesses as to my whereabouts. When you get the person that I am seeing involved, then that is another story....

I know rumors and secrets are exciting and give some people a sense of excitement or control, but please do not use it to harm others. Ask yourself: What is the purpose? What good will come of it? Am I hurting others or myself? What are the actual facts? How reliable is my source? It is so much easier to speak about others when there is nothing about yourself to speak of....

Well... Mr. S and I are happy, I will continue to be the optimist, I do speak to everyone and none of this is changing any time soon....and that is fact, not rumor....you heard it here first.